My Daughter had just given birth to a lovely boy. I asked her what his name is and she replied “James”. I said “I didn’t know you were having twins”. She looked at me with a surprise and asked what I was talking about. . .
Isn’t James plural for Jame?
What is the difference between a House and a Home? A House is the physical place where you keep your belongings and where you sleep at night. A Home is where Love is nurtured, laughs are had, and memories are made.
As i write this i look around my house and see a never ending to do list. This list ranges from day to day tasks such as cleaning, vacuuming, scrubbing. To longterm tasks such as fixing that loose cupboard, or repainting the hallway. This can seem quite daunting, how can someone possibly stay on top of all these tasks while working a full time job and raising a family? The answer is simple, they don’t. . .
While it may drive you a little insane that there is dirty washing all over the house, your kids aren’t going to mind. This is what i’m getting at. Don’t spend all your free time trying to tick off that to do list instead of spending with your family, growing your love, laughing a lot, and making those memories.
Sure your house may have been perfect when you moved in, but it was just a house. Now it’s a home, and it doesn’t have to be perfect. As long as you and your family are happy. and yes when your friends come over to visit its in your nature to rush around and tidy the house to give the impression you are holding it all together, but don’t worry too much. Because i can guarantee if they have kids in their household, they are going through the same situation as you.
Sure tomorrow morning i will probably get up early, spend my time away from work mowing the lawn, ticking that job off the list. But after that ill be able to enjoy spending time outside with my family.
Many workplaces preach the importance of a work life balance, but how many put it into practice? Where does that fine line get drawn? What positives of one side can you give up to benefit the other?
These are the questions I am currently asking myself after being offered a role that provides a stepping stone in my current career path. From a Work perspective its a great opportunity, however the hours will mean restructuring how we do things at home. In the long run my family life will be better with the benefits of my job, but ill need to push through the harder times first.
Don’t worry I’m not after relationship advice or asking you to make the decision for me. I am simply putting my thought process out there for you to read. I know this situation isn’t unique to me, in fact I’d guess most people have been or will be in this position at some point in their careers. Hopefully this provides some comfort for you when you are faced with this decision.
Being a Dad can be tough and making these decisions isn’t easy. My only advice is if your a Dad then your family should come first. Weigh up the benefits of both choices, talk to your family about it, make an informed decision. Then run with it.