At the beginning of a relationship date nights are regular, any night that you are both free gives you the opportunity to spend quality time together. Once you begin raising a family date nights can become a rarity.
While they won’t feel like a priority, its important that you try to maintain them.
Making it Happen
For some this will be easy, others will find it more difficult. Regardless you need to find a way. Family love spending time with your little ones, Friends who are also parents are a good option, if you need to, hire a babysitter.
We are lucky in the fact our parents not only love spending time with our child, they do a pretty good job of looking after him too.
While we have a few friends who are parents, all their kids are around the same age as ours, which at the moment means they are a handful. As they grow older we will benefit from this as will our children.
At this stage we haven’t needed to hire a babysitter, but that doesn’t mean its not a viable option for you. If this is your only option then I would encourage you to explore it. Not only will your relationship benefit from it but so will your sanity.
Child Free Night
Once you have your peace its time to make the most of it. Depending on the support you have from family and friends, Child Free Nights may be few and far between so don’t waste it. Its time for your and your partner to spend some quality time together. It doesn’t need to be extravagant but it needs to be with both of you.
Last night were child free so we went to the movies. I had to work yesterday and today so a big night wasn’t feasible, but we were determined to do something. While it wasn’t our original plan, we felt like we should make the most of it. The movie ‘Blockers’, wasn’t our first choice, but given we had relatively short notice we had to make do. The movie ended up being a great choice.
The rest of the night was quite simple and we used it to get a good nights sleep. Something any parent values very highly.
Your Relationship with each other – Spending time together without kids will allow you to strengthen your bond with each other. Without the stress of parenting, you will be reminded of what your lives were like before having kids, and how that led towards starting a family.
Your Relationship with your Kids – While it might be tough to leave them somewhere or watch them drive off. When you do see them again you will be filled with joy. The sleepless nights, the long days, all of a sudden they won’t seem as bad.
Your Sanity – Perhaps the most important benefit. Parenting can be tough, its a 24 hour a day, 7 day a week job. Scheduling a Date Night allows you to take a break. Whether you choose to enjoy it as it is and just have a quiet night at home, or you decide to make the most of the 12 to 24 hour break. It will do wonders for your sanity, especially if your going through a tough stage of your child’s development (teething anyone?)
Whatever way you choose to spend your date night, this child free time will be for the best. Don’t stress if you can’t arrange an entire night to yourselves, even a couple of hours for lunch will make a difference. Just don’t go kidding yourself that you don’t need it, Your Kids won’t hold it against you. If you haven’t had the opportunity yet, you don’t know what your missing out on.