Top 3 Proud Parenting Moments of the Week 27/5/18

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Another week draws to a close which means its time for another Top 3 moments of the week. Last week we highlighted the Top 3 Tantrums, this week we have something different for you.

Down Under Dad’s

Top 3 Parenting Moments of the Week

As a parent you will often experience moments where your child does something you are really proud of, whether its playing nicely with other kids, cleaning up after themselves, or finally saying that word you have been trying to teach them.

So in no particular order, here are the Top 3 from this week;

1. Helping with the Laundry

Once you become a parent the amount of dirty laundry you have increases dramatically. It starts off with dedicated loads for baby clothes, but even older kids go through more clothes then you think.

While doing the washing earlier this week, I let my wife know and my son overheard. He then proceeded to collect the dirty clothes (well most of them were dirty), and take them into the laundry, put them in the machine, shut the door, and push the start button. Sure I couldn’t leave him to do it all by himself, but its definitely a step in the right direction.

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2. Putting away his toys by himself, in the correct location

While toys are a great way to keep your child entertained, they can also be a thorn in any parent’s side. No matter how many times you put them away, they will always find a way back out. You will also spend many days finding different ways to store them that stops them taking over your house.

This week we achieved something we have been aiming for a very long time. We asked our child to put his toys away. Without argument he simply picked them up and carried them into his toy room. Once there he not only proceeded to put them back in their designated homes, but he got them all right! even if it meant trying multiple angles before succeeding. Keeping the house tidy is about to become so much easier.

3. Sleeping through the night in his big boy bed

Sleeping arrangements for children has always been a heavily debated topic. What cot/bed to use? When to transition? Do you co-sleep? While Ill save that discussion for another day, each to their own, my advice is simply do what works for you.

We bought our son a big boy bed (and yes, that is a race car bed) a few months ago now as he was starting to grow out of his cot. Since then he has been having his daily naps in the bed, but still sleeping overnight has always been in his cot, until now. This week we attempted to sleep all night in our big bed, and succeeded!

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Every day as a parent you witness moments that make you smile. You can be having a rough day when your child does something that makes you realise you are actually doing a better job of this parenting gig then you give yourself credit. Make the most of these moments.

What were your Proud parenting moments this week? Share with me below! Same place Same time next week for another Top 3 moments of the week

 

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Newcastle’s ‘Blackbutt Reserve’ Review – A Family Outing

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A Beautiful Day

Today was an unseasonably warm day with perfect weather, the perfect opportunity for an outdoors adventure. Following my own advice from Go To Tricks For Entertaining Kids, we decided to head outdoors, beyond the limits of our backyard. Living in the city generally means we need to travel a little bit further to enjoy nature, this is the one exception.

What better way to enjoy the beautiful day and spend time as a family then to go wandering through the bush and exploring the different wildlife that live in our country. To make the day even better some of my wider family joined us as well!

Today’s destination – Blackbutt Reserve!

Disclaimer, while this might read like a paid review, that couldn’t be further from the truth. My family enjoyed a great day out here and I am simply letting you as the reader know what an amazing place we found it to be.

Black What Reserve?

So what is Blackbutt Reserve? if your a local reader then feel free to skip onto the next section (unless you feel like possibly learning something). For the wider audience I’ll elaborate.

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Blackbutt Reserve is a nature reservation a short 15-minute drive from the centre of Newcastle. It is situated on over 182 hectares of bushland, including a dedicated area with wildlife exhibits. They are setup in such a way that allow visitors (free of charge) to watch the animals in their native habitat and learn more about them. What better way to learn more about the animals then attending one of the scheduled animal feeding sessions on throughout the day.

Of the 93 things listed on TripAdvisor to do in Newcastle, it is ranked 4th, with an average rating of 4.5 out of 5.

Aside from the wildlife, Blackbutt is also a great location for other outdoor recreational activities. The reserve boasts 10 kilometers of tracks that will suit a range of fitness levels.

Or for those looking for something a bit quieter, there is ample BBQ and picnic facilities with a sizable kids playground as well

Combine all this together and you have the making of a wonderful family outing. Which is exactly what we did today.

Our Adventure

We started our visit by heading straight to one of the many picnic tables. We brought our lunch with us (see my advice section later on) as it was already the afternoon and none of us had eaten yet (rookie error). While sitting down eating we took turns enjoying the open area to kick a ball around with the little guy.

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Once lunch was finished it was time to check out the wildlife. The reserve has a set walking path through the various enclosures allowing you to see (almost!) all the animals in one go.

Blackbutt koalas

On our way we got to see a couple of Wombats snacking away, and various species of birds. One of the more popular enclosures would have been the Koalas. You could get pretty close to them, even if the majority of them were passed out.

Blackbutt Lizards

As we moved further through the reserve we were led through a couple of darkened enclosures highlighting the various nocturnal animals native to the area. Hot Tip! if you are taking younger kids through here, it can be hard to point out the smaller animals in the exhibits, try and bring them before they get too tired and their patience wears out.

After completing our adventure through the first section, we wondered why we had purchased ’emu food’ ($2) when we hadn’t seen any. We then realised that on the other side of the clearing was another large enclosure, highlighting the larger animals. This is where our little guy really became interested.

Emus

He was fascinated. That is until Grandma almost lost a finger feeding the Emus, then he wanted to move on pretty quickly. Whether it was the Emus or Grandmas reaction that spooked him is still up for debate.

By this stage our man was getting very tired, to the point where he refused to walk by himself and didn’t want anyone holding him except mum. That is until he saw the wallabies.

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Honestly I think he would have stayed their all afternoon if we were with him. He wasn’t just staring at them, he was waving and saying hello!

By the time we got back to our cars the entire family was a bit worn out. The little guy because he didn’t have his usual nap before we went. The rest of us because I think we underestimated how much walking would be involved (see advice later on for shoes).

Suffice to say it was definitely worth heading out for

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Advice for Families

As parents you may think you can prepare for every situation, but can you ensure you make the most of every adventure. Here’s a quick list if you plan on visiting Blackbutt, or any similar location

  • Choose your Time of Day Carefully – Some will say go earlier in the day to try and beat the crowds. With the reserve being open all day, you can miss the crowds by going later on too. I would also work this around your kids. If they are still young, work it around nap time etc.
  • Pack Well – The car park is only a short walk from the main recreational area so don’t be afraid to over pack. Bringing your own lunch is a good idea with onsite food options very limited. BBQ’s are an option but this place does get busy. Don’t forget to pack your esky with drinks for the family too.
  • Dress Appropriately – Sure some parts are in the sun, others are well shaded, so if its a cooler day don’t underestimate the temperature dropping. Also I wouldn’t attend without wearing good footwear. If you want to experience the wildlife you will need to do some walking, and its not flat.
  • Respect the environment – this should be a given. It is rare to find such a large reserve of bushland so close to the city. The only way it will last is if its looked after. Don’t litter, look after the facilities, and follow the advice listed for feeding the wildlife.

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As I said earlier, the Down Under Family had a great afternoon at Blackbutt. I would highly recommend it to any families, as well as those who have never experienced the wildlife of our country. I know we are already planning our next visit.

Links

Blackbutt Reserve Website

http://www.newcastle.nsw.gov.au/Blackbutt-Reserve/Home

Blackbutt Reserve on TripAdvisor

https://www.tripadvisor.com.au/Attraction_Review-g255325-d953695-Reviews-Blackbutt_Reserve-Newcastle_Greater_Newcastle_New_South_Wales.html

Visit Newcastle – Blackbutt Reserve

https://www.visitnewcastle.com.au/blackbutt-reserve

Go To Tricks For Entertaining Kids

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Kids will use up all of your energy as a parent, not just physically but mentally as well. No matter how much attention you give them it is never enough. At least until they are teenagers, then they don’t want any (or so I’m told, tell you what, if this blog is still going in another 10 years or so I’ll let you know).

You can spend all day with your child playing game after game, but as soon as you try to put your feet up, they will come running.

The exception to this is nap time (for toddlers anyway). I won’t go into too much detail here as it’s a well known urban legend amoung parents that if you say the word nap too many times your child will refuse to sleep that day. Try it out if you dare.

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So how can you keep your day entertaining for you and your children? Try out the following

Common Ways to

keep your Children Entertained

  • Play some games – Simple peekaboo games, like hiding around the corner from each other will always get a laugh from a toddler, as they grow up you can change this to a hide and seek style game.
  • Play with their toys – If you are trying to get them to play with their own toys, why not play with them, show them how fun they can be. Chances are you have spent some decent money of the toys so you may as well make the most of them. Try rolling cars along with them, or building their wooden train set. They are more likely to go back to the toys later if they have enjoyed the time spent playing with them.
  • Go Outside – If your kids are anything like mine then they love being outside, sure they don’t understand that in winter they need to wear extra clothes, or in summer they need sunscreen, but they love being outdoors. Have a backyard? Great! maintain it and acquire some outdoor play equipment. Don’t have that luxury? find a nearby park.
  • Get Active with them – Not only will this clear your head but it helps to build healthy habits. Sure this is easier as they get older, but if your child is young enough to be in a pram, then take them for a walk/run. Go kick a ball around a park. Go for a bike ride. The good thing about them being active is that it will tire them out, and all parents know a tired child sleeps better then one full of energy.

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So what happens when normal just doesn’t cut it anymore. Parents are often guilty as believing they know best. More specifically, parents whose kids are older always think they know better then those with younger kids, they call it experience.

In my almost 2 years of experience being a parent I have learnt a few tricks. Now I know this parenting gig ain’t always easy, so I’m more then happy to share them. Some might be surprising, others more obvious.

So here it is. . .

Down Under Dad’s

Trick-book for entertaining Toddlers

Disclaimer, these tricks were current at the time of writing. It doesn’t take a genius to tell you they won’t last forever. By the time you read this they might already be outdated. I also can’t be held liable if they don’t work for you. Every child is different.

  • The Wiggles – This one might be a bit outdated, but for the first 12 months of so of our child’s life he was obsessed. Whether it was books, movies, songs, or even merchandise, he would always have a smile on his face. You can imagine the look on his face when he saw them live in concert.
  • Watermelon – Yes I know its a food. If he is playing up or not eating much, Watermelon is the key! He loves it, and by just saying the name, he will instantly stop what he is doing and go to the kitchen.
  • Outside – Our son would spend all day outside if we let him. While not necessarily a bad thing, it can be tough when the weather doesn’t cooperate. However 9 times out of 10 if he is getting stir crazy inside, taking him outside will solve the problem (at least temporarily).
  • Disney Movies – At the moment its 2 in particular. ‘Moana’ and ‘Cars 3’ – both available on Netflix (thank god). The first one is played at least once daily in our house, and yes I can recite the words to most of the songs. The second was an obvious one for us. Our child is obsessed with Cars as objects, so it didn’t take much to put 2 and 2 together and show him the movies.
  • Trucks! – so this last one is related to the previous (cars and trucks both have wheels?). Its also one of those ones that almost makes you feel a little guilty as a parent. You can see the road from the front room of our house, which the occasional truck drives along. Our son loves watching these trucks, doesn’t matter what he is in the middle of, if he thinks he has heard a truck out the front then he will go to try and watch it.

 

As a reader you are probably having 1 of 2 different reactions to the above

  1. There is no way that would work with my kids – I say “fair enough”, I’ve made this list based upon my 2 year old so if your kids are of a different age they might not be effective. I also say “Have you tried?”, if you are currently raising toddlers then I encourage you to try something off my list, any change in routine can be for the better.
  2. Wow you couldn’t be anymore true – I say “thanks, but i’m only showing you what works”. A big part of parenting is trial and error, sometimes you have to try multiple options before you find one that works, and even then it won’t work forever.

 

Ultimately its up to you as a parent to find the best way to keep your kids entertained, but if you can do it successfully, the eventual outcome will look something like the below

tired child

 

What works for you? How do you keep your children entertained? Got a hot tip to add to my list? I’d love to hear it. If I get enough Ill publish a reader submitted edition.

Top 3 Tantrums of the Week 20/5/18

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Its the End of the week which means its time for another Top 3 Moments of the week gone by. This week has been what parents would know as a ‘long’ week so to finish it off, in no particular order, here are the Top 3 Tantrums from this week.

We only just arrived, I don’t want to leave yet

After a 2 and a half hour car ride I wouldn’t want to hop straight back in the car either, thankfully that’s not what we were doing.

We had arrived at a park for a friends birthday and wandered over to where they had set up. Once we placed our things down we all needed a toilet trip and someone needed a nappy change, unfortunately the toilets were in a similar direction to the car. By similar I mean away from where we were.

The standout was when our child decided

to hop off his little ride on car and proceed to flip it over in outrage.

I know the sun is up but I still want the light on

The unfortunate nature of toddler sleeping patterns is that they are forever changing. The unfortunate nature of living in Australia means twice a year we change our clocks by 1 hour. As an adult this doesn’t mean much, as a toddler when you wake up at a similar time most days, that time has now changed.

How does this relate to our tantrum? well when our child decided to wake us up this morning it was still dark enough to put the light on. As the morning passed the light was then turned off.

How Dare We! In response our toddler stood in front of the light switch pointing at it, demanding it be turned back on. Trying to save money on our power bill we tried not to give in. I say tried, because sometimes the easiest way to avoid another tantrum is to give in.

No I will not let you try and wipe the chocolate off my forehead

Now I’ll start this off by saying we don’t consume a lot of sugar in our household, and neither does our child. However the occasional chocolate biscuit is enjoyed, and our child is never far away.

Anyone who knows chocolate, knows it can melt quickly and become sticky. Anyone who knows toddlers, knows they can make a mess out of just about anything. The other thing about toddlers is they generally don’t like being cleaned up. Mix the 3 together and you get chocolate on your child’s face.

The unfortunate thing about chocolate is it looks a lot like your child has dirt all over their face (parent of the year). Depending on the location and severity it can also look like a bad scratch. Both of these were the first things I asked when my wife showed me the picture.

 

Just to clarify, by no means are these the only tantrums that occurred this week. I would be writing all night if I listed them all, but after careful deliberation between my wife and I, these were the best. To narrow it down we used the criteria that they needed to be a classic toddler tantrum, that is, they needed to be for a ridiculous excuse that no amount of reasoning would have helped the situation.

Enjoyed this list? Got some stories of your own to share? Tune in this time next week for another Top 3

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Down Under Mother’s Day

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Is one day a year really enough to celebrate mother’s? I guess that depends on what you make of the day. Officially its only one day a year so make the most of it.

If you’re a parent reading this then you know how challenging the day to day life of Mum or Dad can be. All parents recognise this. Do you want to be known as the Dad who forgot Mother’s Day? No Way do I want that title.

Remember Father’s Day comes later in the year, if you want that day to be special, then you better make the most of Mother’s Day. 

With Mother’s Day gone for another year it’s time to recap this years celebrations.

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Presents

I once read that a party without cake is a meeting, I think a celebration without presents of some kind isn’t a celebration at all. If we are going to celebrate the amazing job mum’s do then they deserve some gratitude.

If your still stuck for present ideas (even if its a bit late), check out my earlier post Preparing for Mother’s Day. Not only will it give you a few ideas but also how you should have celebrated it, maybe next year?

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If you read my guide on mother’s day presents then what follows won’t surprise you. Here’s the rundown on how my son and I showed our gratitude.

  • Spa Voucher – Yes I went the easy way out, but at least I know it guarantees her some relaxation time down the track.
  • Pajamas – I must confess I had help with that one, my wife picked them out herself (also a safe bet if your not sure on sizes)
  • Handmade Present – This came from daycare, a small pot painted by our son, filled with a couple of chocolates.

Breakfast

It’s no secret that Mrs Down Under prepares the majority of meals in our household. With the weather getting colder over here a hot breakfast is definitely preferred over a cold one. That is one meal I can cook!

Breakfast in Bed? That’s one pastime we don’t practice.

Who wants to make a mess where you sleep.

mothers day breakfast

Pancakes are always a safe bet. Given our child is almost 2, cooking a hot breakfast isn’t something I can delegate to him, he was fascinated in the process though. Maybe next year I can pass this job onto him.

Lunch

We were lucky this year in that both my Mum and my Mother in-law came to our house for lunch, this meant we didn’t have to travel anywhere allowing my Wife more time to relax. The best part about grandparents is they love looking after grandchildren, again more time to relax.

While lunch wasn’t anything fancy (have you been reading? I’m not a great cook) it was still more then we would normally do for a Sunday Lunch, sometimes simple can be just as effective as fancy (at least that’s what I keep telling myself).

Back to Reality

As I mentioned at the start of this article Mother’s Day is only one day a year. That means Monday was back to reality, back to work, back to sharing the load as parents.

So is One Day enough? Whether it is or not is a discussion for another day. That doesn’t mean you need to only celebrate it one day a year. Take the time and plan ahead to spoil the Mother of your Kids throughout the year. Don’t forget your day will come too.

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Having the Time

A friend recently asked me how I have time as a Dad to: Be a Parent, Work Full time, visit the Gym a couple of days a week, and still have the time to Blog. While there is no simple answer, my only advice is that if you commit to it you find a way to make it happen.

If you stop for a minute and break it down honestly, you will see you have more time then you would have thought. The below list was taken from my crossfit coach (slightly adapted),

There are 168 Hours in the Week

56 Hours of that should be sleep (8×7)

40 Hours of Work (8×5, average working week)

5 Hours commuting (1 hour a day)

10 hours Eating (just under 1.5 hours a day)

10 Hours Preparing (Cooking, Toilet/Shower, etc)

3 Hours Shopping (groceries and adhoc)

14 hours being Active (2 hours a day)

30 hours a week for Family time – on top of the above (5 hours a day)

But that doesn’t work for me?

While the Above is just a guide, it will look a little different for everyone. Work a longer week then that? that’s OK, have a longer commute? that’s OK too.  The amount of time you need to allocate to weekly tasks may vary, but that doesn’t mean you can’t make the time to do the things you are passionate about.

Having the Time

Make a Plan

Every day is different and we need to prioritise each day to make the most of it. You just need to make your list of priorities and make the time to get them done rather then sitting on the lounge.

Depending on whether or not you have all your ducks in a row, making a plan for the week might work, otherwise make a plan for each day. As a parent I know that even the best made plans can go haywire depending on (A) how well your child slept last night and (B) what side of the bed they woke up on. If you need to, adjust your plan on the run.

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Do I spend 2 hours being active every day of the week? No. Do I work on my Blog every day of the week, I Try. Do I get 8 hours sleep every night? I don’t think I’ve had that since becoming a parent.

So when do I Blog?

Whenever I have free time! I’m not saying I write posts start to finish in one session each time. While that would be nice, it would also mean I get very little free time which if you look at the above isn’t true. Technology these days means I can blog just about anywhere from my smartphone. I record ideas as soon as I have them, I write when the creativity strikes, and I put the finishing touches on when I can sit and spend the time doing so.

The only way you can make time to do everything you want is to stop making excuses about why you didn’t do them.

It’s not always about having the time to do everything you want, Its about making the time. Don’t tell me “I don’t have the time”.

 

 

Pop Culture Ruined??

When kids come along your Life changes for the better, but some habits are hard to let go of. Pop Culture is a part of everyone’s lives and that includes your kids, but what’s relevant to you as a Dad and how often you can enjoy it will vary to that of before parenthood.

I read an article on a site I follow titled “Direct Advice for Dads” which is exactly what it sounds like. Their recent article 6 Ways your kid will ruin pop culture forever by AndrewPStreet was one I was really able to relate to. The article summarises 6 key points around just how Popular Culture streams change now you are a parent. Below ill list the same 6, with some helpful tips on how to reduce the impact.

1. You’ll never sit through a movie uninterrupted again

Blockbuster Movies these days just keep getting longer (2hrs 40mins for the latest Avengers movie), as parent with young kids you will find the chances of you having this amount of time unbroken is rare. This doesn’t mean you have to miss out, instead make sure you see these types of films when they are still at the cinema, a great idea for a monthly Date Night.

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The other option as listed in the article is the volume turned down and subtitles on. Something my wife and I have started doing recently, and find it funny some of the lines you pick up on when you can read them rather then listen to them.

2. You have new nightmares now

Those Liam Neeson movies will become a whole lot more realistic when your child has wandered into the next aisle at the grocery shop. The Punisher’s children being murdered feels like justification for his vengeful actions.

These action movies might have seemed a bit far fetched before parenthood, and you may have thought you were over the nightmares you had as a kid, but all of a sudden you will feel an emotional connection to the characters in these movies.

3. Things get horribly visceral

While the Star Wars prequel movies have always been a hot topic of discussion between fans (i’ll save that for another day), The scene in Revenge of the Sith where Anakin slaughters the younglings may have made for a powerful scene in the movie will now have a different effect on you

Its scenes like that which when you first watched them would never have hit so close to home. Now your watching your favorite movies doesn’t seem like such a great idea.

4. Your kids have their own nightmares

If you think back to your childhood, nightmares often came from movies or shows with reoccurring characters, completely harmless and there for entertainment. The same goes for your kids, we are all guilty of watching the same movie over and over as it keeps our child quiet. Any character or scene that gets stuck in their head could easily turn into a nightmare for them.

No real way to avoid this one, sorry Dads. What were the focus of some of your nightmares? Clowns?

5. Styles have changed, Grandpa

Movie styles and camera shots have definitely changed. When I was young, movie scenes lasted a lot longer, individual shots could last over 10 seconds. These days camera shots are much shorter and the average scene would be close to half of what it used to be.

This change in pace makes for a very different experience. Kids don’t have the patience we do and a longer scene without much action is not going to engage them the same way it used to for you.

Every Dad has seen Star Wars, think back to A New Hope. What kid these days is going to watch 40 minutes of a couple of robots wandering the desert?

6. Speaking of evolving tastes

Our kids are always learning, and there is no way to limit that. They pickup things from the way we act and respond, their environment, and what they hear. How many times has your kid repeated something back to you that either you just said or they heard on a song.

Now look at your playlist, unless its already full of kids sons, how many of those songs feature lyrics about topics you probably don’t want your kid repeating. I suggest creating another playlist for when the kids are around, and enjoy your 90’s Hip Hop when they are not around.

Pop Culture Ruined
Pop Culture Ruined

 

Popular Culture covers many topics and comes in a wide range of media. These are all made for our entertainment, however not necessarily for our kids. How and if you choose to alter your habits is entirely up to you, but having a child sleep through the night without waking up to nightmares is lovely. Listening to your child repeat words from your old playlists probably isn’t.

Month in Review – April in Numbers

30, the current age in years of me AKA Down Under Dad, also the amount of Days in April. What other numbers were important in April? Here is a quick run down.

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937 – The number of times one of my pages was viewed by you.

359 – Unique visitors to my site. Were you one of these? did you make up more then one of these, how many pages did you view?

132 – how many times my posts have been ‘liked’ by readers.

30 – fellow bloggers I have connected with since since starting this Blog (i cheated here, this is total, not just for April)

85 – Facebook Page likes, the wider non blogging world who enjoy (I think) getting notified when I’ve posted.

85 – Also the number of times my most popular post Choose your workout buddy was viewed

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56 – Instagram, Those who like to keep up to date daily (mostly) purely in image form.

37 – Individual comments on my posts. Why it may seem like something simple, these really mean a lot, its always nice knowing my posts have made a connection with you.

23 – Different countries that had people view my page. May seem like a lot but as you can see there is still a lot of white on the map. Share the word, lets get this colored in.

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19 – Number of individual posts. If I’m honest this number could have been higher, I definitely had the time to. Being relatively new to blogging means my efficiency isn’t quite there yet. looking forward to growing that number. Watch this space.

So there you have it, a month in numbers. While this probably won’t be revisited every month, I look forward to doing it again down the track. I do need to thank stomperdad who gave me the idea to review where April led me.

For those who have engaged with my Blog so Far, Thank You! Its nice knowing you are out there. If you like what you have read or you know someone else who might, let them know! Tag, Share, Email, do whatever the cool kids are doing these days to spread the word.

 

Observing Other Dads

We are all Different, Everybody is different, Every Family is different, Every Dad is different. How we do things is also different. How you manage a tricky parenting situation (out of control child at the shops anyone?) could be different to how another parent handles it.

This is a response to The Daily Post’s Daily Prompt

https://dailypost.wordpress.com/prompts/observe/

Dad’s are generally pretty honest about how much they know about parenting. Most of the time we haven’t read all the books, gone to all the classes, all listened to our other halves when they said “don’t forget to pack their. . .” When we are out and about as a family, this isn’t an issue. When Dad’s running solo with the children, things can spin out of control.

How do you handle the situation? How does another Dad handle the situation? Look around, Observe! what are other Dads doing. You can learn a lot from others just by observing their actions. Doing the groceries? can’t seem to settle your child? Look around, did that Dad just open a yogurt off the shelf to give to his child? okay that looks like it worked, give it a go!

Observation is a powerful tool. As a Dad don’t be afraid to borrow a few ideas off fellow Dads, you can guarantee everyone has been in the same situation before.

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Maintaining the Balance

Whose turn is it to do the dishes? Why are there still wet clothes in the machine? When is the bathroom going to be cleaned? Isn’t it your turn? I did it last time?

Any of these sound familiar? I would say most of us have Thought, Heard, Argued, over these all something similar.

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This post was inspired by a segment on a local radio station where they were discussing the breakup of household chores between couples (slow news day obviously). It got me thinking about different families and households and wondering if the way we currently share them is the most effective.

Current Agreement

As it currently stands our ‘chores are split 2 ways. Firstly the jobs we either enjoy doing (rephrase that to “don’t mind doing”), along with the ones we can’t stand. Then the rest generally goes with who has the most time to actually get them done. Time meaning either child free or child distracted.

How does this work for our household? Well two things come out of it. One is the daily crucial tasks generally done (dishes, cooking, etc). Two is that we end up with 1 day a week where we just get in and get the entire house cleaned while balancing the child between us. It might not be efficient gets the job done.

Whatever works for you

However you choose to split up the work. Its important both sides are in agreement, and more importantly both sides understand that as a parent not everything goes to plan. So don’t get stressed out (see my post insert link). I will add that given having children drastically reduces free time and increases the workload. I am looking forward to the day I can get our child involved in doing the chores. Don’t get me wrong he loves helping with the vacuuming, but he can’t exactly do it himself yet.

How do you split up your chores? 50/50? 70/30? I bet sometimes it feels like 100/0. Is there a better way to sort it out? Is it frowned upon using your kids to do the dirty work?

Sometimes it’s easier to do them yourself