Having the Time

A friend recently asked me how I have time as a Dad to: Be a Parent, Work Full time, visit the Gym a couple of days a week, and still have the time to Blog. While there is no simple answer, my only advice is that if you commit to it you find a way to make it happen.

If you stop for a minute and break it down honestly, you will see you have more time then you would have thought. The below list was taken from my crossfit coach (slightly adapted),

There are 168 Hours in the Week

56 Hours of that should be sleep (8×7)

40 Hours of Work (8×5, average working week)

5 Hours commuting (1 hour a day)

10 hours Eating (just under 1.5 hours a day)

10 Hours Preparing (Cooking, Toilet/Shower, etc)

3 Hours Shopping (groceries and adhoc)

14 hours being Active (2 hours a day)

30 hours a week for Family time – on top of the above (5 hours a day)

But that doesn’t work for me?

While the Above is just a guide, it will look a little different for everyone. Work a longer week then that? that’s OK, have a longer commute? that’s OK too.  The amount of time you need to allocate to weekly tasks may vary, but that doesn’t mean you can’t make the time to do the things you are passionate about.

Having the Time

Make a Plan

Every day is different and we need to prioritise each day to make the most of it. You just need to make your list of priorities and make the time to get them done rather then sitting on the lounge.

Depending on whether or not you have all your ducks in a row, making a plan for the week might work, otherwise make a plan for each day. As a parent I know that even the best made plans can go haywire depending on (A) how well your child slept last night and (B) what side of the bed they woke up on. If you need to, adjust your plan on the run.

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Do I spend 2 hours being active every day of the week? No. Do I work on my Blog every day of the week, I Try. Do I get 8 hours sleep every night? I don’t think I’ve had that since becoming a parent.

So when do I Blog?

Whenever I have free time! I’m not saying I write posts start to finish in one session each time. While that would be nice, it would also mean I get very little free time which if you look at the above isn’t true. Technology these days means I can blog just about anywhere from my smartphone. I record ideas as soon as I have them, I write when the creativity strikes, and I put the finishing touches on when I can sit and spend the time doing so.

The only way you can make time to do everything you want is to stop making excuses about why you didn’t do them.

It’s not always about having the time to do everything you want, Its about making the time. Don’t tell me “I don’t have the time”.

 

 

Maintaining the Balance

Whose turn is it to do the dishes? Why are there still wet clothes in the machine? When is the bathroom going to be cleaned? Isn’t it your turn? I did it last time?

Any of these sound familiar? I would say most of us have Thought, Heard, Argued, over these all something similar.

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This post was inspired by a segment on a local radio station where they were discussing the breakup of household chores between couples (slow news day obviously). It got me thinking about different families and households and wondering if the way we currently share them is the most effective.

Current Agreement

As it currently stands our ‘chores are split 2 ways. Firstly the jobs we either enjoy doing (rephrase that to “don’t mind doing”), along with the ones we can’t stand. Then the rest generally goes with who has the most time to actually get them done. Time meaning either child free or child distracted.

How does this work for our household? Well two things come out of it. One is the daily crucial tasks generally done (dishes, cooking, etc). Two is that we end up with 1 day a week where we just get in and get the entire house cleaned while balancing the child between us. It might not be efficient gets the job done.

Whatever works for you

However you choose to split up the work. Its important both sides are in agreement, and more importantly both sides understand that as a parent not everything goes to plan. So don’t get stressed out (see my post insert link). I will add that given having children drastically reduces free time and increases the workload. I am looking forward to the day I can get our child involved in doing the chores. Don’t get me wrong he loves helping with the vacuuming, but he can’t exactly do it himself yet.

How do you split up your chores? 50/50? 70/30? I bet sometimes it feels like 100/0. Is there a better way to sort it out? Is it frowned upon using your kids to do the dirty work?

Sometimes it’s easier to do them yourself